A Woman’s Place is in the Kitchen

I wouldn’t dare say that to your face
but I am talking to you:
all the women I’ve objectified,
all the women I’ve ignored,
all the women I’ve interrupted,
all the women I’ve discounted,
all the women I’ve paid less
yet expected more.

A woman’s place is in the kitchen
so you know how to turn up the heat.
Remember, you’re the majority.
So get out there in the streets!

Don’t let my fellow men win.

About Bartholomew Barker

Bartholomew Barker is one of the organizers of Living Poetry, a collection of poets and poetry lovers in the Triangle region of North Carolina. Born and raised in Ohio, studied in Chicago, he worked in Connecticut for nearly twenty years before moving to Hillsborough where he makes money as a computer programmer to fund his poetry habit.
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24 Responses to A Woman’s Place is in the Kitchen

  1. equipsblog says:

    Loved your deft detour. Nice!

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  2. I would just have to say, so it’s us again who have to get out on the street? It’s not only men who wanted this repealed, it’s the Christian right, and all of those men have wives and daughters who back this all the way. Amy Cooney Barrett had something to do with this as well. And Ruth Bader Ginsberg in my opinion by not getting off the bench when she should have. And then there’s the fact that Roe was never put into law. Rape and Incest laws are in place but these crimes also don’t get prosecuted. It’s an utter failure to protect women all the way around. And we’re supposed to be the ones to fight now? The ones to be out there on the front line, unprotected? I’ve been fighting all my life. And I’m sorry but admitting how irresolute you are only angers me all the more.

    This one is personal.

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  3. berniebell1955 says:

    I’m going to write this – and it probably won’t be popular. Some people, women and men – like to be in the kitchen. Like to be domestic. It suits them. One of my sisters spent her life being a wife and mother because she chose to – she liked that life. Funnily enough, when her children had grown and flown, she got a job cooking on a building site for the workers. She liked to feed and look after people.
    One of my nieces has done the same, lived her life as a wife and mother, and reared her children well.

    I sing with Aretha and Annie ‘Sisters are doing it for themselves’…. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=drGx7JkFSp4 but – we all have choices – male and female, and…well…demanding that we must all ‘make our mark’ annoys me – it simply doesn’t suit some folk. Equally, my oldest friend (and I mean old in age – of my generation) is a house-husband – while his wife works he minds the children and the house – because that suits both of them.

    So, I’m writing this for my sister, my niece, and my old (male) friend who made their choices. Tho’ it has to be said – the choices were there to be made. Years ago, another friend was vehemently against men – really angry – damning all men under one way of seeing. My argument was that there are good men – when women had no power, it was good men in power who brought in the laws which made the changes. She was bitter, from experience. Couldn’t blame her in a way, but – she was a thinking, intelligent person, who should have been able to look beyond the personal.

    I’m wittering on. I’ll stop. Just want to say – words come easy. Lives are lived as they are lived.

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  4. berniebell1955 says:

    “As long as you don’t advocate for laws that would require women to be domestic slaves to their fathers/husbands, we’re fine.”

    Blimey Bartholomew – you write some wondrous stuff – and you write some ????? I think the clue was in my saying that I sing with Annie & Aretha.

    Those kind of laws went west quite some time ago. It’s more to do with ingrained attitudes than laws.

    I remind myself that you don’t know me – and I don’t know you.

    ‘Nuff said.

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  5. berniebell1955 says:

    “We just have to fight harder when we’re going backwards, like now.”

    Yes, that’s it – we’re actually in agreement.

    Tho’ – I believe reasoned argument to be a good thing.

    I’m going to throw something else into the arena. There are plenty of men who are ’slaves’ to their wives or mothers. Have you read ’Under Milk Wood’ by Dylan Thomas? The dictatorship of Mrs. Ogmore-Pritchard. It not as clear-cut as men being the villains and women being the victims.

    Sound laws are needed in any society, but it’s down to the individual to try to make daily life work, and to treat people right.

    And it’s worth looking at why someone feels the need to dominate someone else. Often they were dominated themselves. Breaking the pattern is what’s needed – individually and in society.

    We’re a complex species and how we behave makes no sense at all in many ways.

    Some musings on how we behave, and how good laws can guide that….


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    • Agreed, we are a complex species. That’s why I’d prefer to have fewer laws governing consensual interpersonal behaviours but plenty of laws against coercive interpersonal behaviours. There are folks who are willing “slaves” in BDSM relationships but there are also folks who are unwilling slaves and only the latter need the protection of law.


  6. berniebell1955 says:

    In complete agreement – I don’t see what it’s got to do with anyone what people do with themselves, their lives, or their ‘bits’, as long as all involved are happy with what’s happening.

    On a slightly different angle re. male/female interaction…….

    And what century is this set in?

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  7. Loved how you put this:) Clever and Right On!!

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  8. Me too…Inshallah 🙏

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  9. Ana Daksina says:

    Thank you from all of us! 🙏

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  10. Such an empathetic poem! Freedom-loving women do not want to lose their hard-won rights.
    Your support is valued! <3 Have a great week, Bartholomew!

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